Possible Reasons Why You're Not Where You Want to Be #MajorKeyLessons
One thing I've been doing as of late, is literally taking time out to write down my key learnings. It used to be something I would only do at work after really tough situations happened, but now I see the importance of doing it (at least for me personally) in my every day life.
Not everyone may feel the need to do this, but I feel like I experience and go through so much, process so many pieces of information, and on top of that having to remember these things - that it helps to take time to reflect and quickly write down a key learning or two. And I'm not talking long journal entries, but just the nuggets. It’s a way of making the most of what I go through and preventing myself from repeating mistakes to a point where it feels careless.
From time to time, I'll share a few MAJOR KEY *DJ Khaled voice* lessons...
Just Because You Say You'll Do It In Your Head, Doesn't Mean You'll Actually Get It Done:
When I first started blogging, my process was a bit inconsistent. I couldn't tell you what my step-by-step process was, nor did I think I needed one. And despite hearing about the importance of having one (and a schedule) from every corner of the internet, I was so confident with my abilities to get shit done that it felt unnecessary.
What changed? I started asking different questions.....
"Why is it that I haven't posted something in almost 3 months?"
"Why am I not progressing as fast as I want?"
"What the heck am I doing with my time!?"
Then I started to think, "I really should create out some sort of process and document what has worked and what hasn't in order to improve it as I go." Not only did I get serious about my blogging and content creation process, but I started to keep track of my personal time and schedule just like I do at work. Just like I map out my meetings and time to work on projects using my Microsoft Outlook calendar at work, I dusted off that good ol' iCloud calendar and got crazy color coordinating categories like 'Appointments' and 'Benita The Diva'.
There truly is something different about committing to your priorities by scheduling out time, planning ahead, and really getting a VISUAL of whats on your plate vs. keeping it all mentally in your head. I'll save that tea for another time though. 🐸☕️
Just Because You Talk Shit About Someone Else, Doesn't Mean It's Going To Make Anything Better:
Talking smack about someone is one of those silent killers.
It silently kills the vibe. It silently drains the person who is listening. And it silently kills your time...
The time you could be spending on minding your own got dang business.
I know, it can be tempting to just go in hard on someone, but after so long - it's not worth it. Not even five minutes. And if someone is getting under your skin that much, then something has got to give... whether you tell that person what's up, you check yourself, or you just move on. PERIOD.
Just Because You Complain About What's Wrong, Doesn't Mean You Learned From It:
Recently went to a paid event, and let's just say I was not happy with how my money was spent. Talk about mad annoyed! I talked shit about the promoters, event hosts, the parking situation, the fact that the person next to me blinked an eye..... you know, the whole nine! But then I thought to myself, they still had a good turn out and it wasn't a total bust. Why? Because there were some nuggets in there for me.
Once I got over complaining and talking shit, I jot down some key learnings. Turning my complaints into ideas and key learnings on how not to host an event, the little things that make a big difference for event attendees, how I could best show up next time to get the most out of that experience, how I can prevent myself from getting lured into events like that again, how I can get more intentional about how I spend my time.... you know, the whole nine! See what I did there? 😏
Speaking of not happy with how things are going...
Just Because Things Don't Go According to Plan, Doesn't Mean You Aren't Progressing:
Disclaimer: This one will forever be a hard one to sink in for me.
I don't know what it is, but we sometimes get so locked into the plan and sticking to it - that when things out of our control happen, sh*t hits the fan.
And it's like, well this was not apart of my plans! WHERE DID THIS WRENCH COME FROM!?!?!?
Then from there, it's like a domino effect.
Because our plans didn't unfold as envisioned, we begin to think that since we didn't reach that goal like we thought we would, then it was all a waste. But, its not.
Sometimes its the hardest moments that give you the most golden nuggets worth taking note (and action) on. Those setbacks ARE progress. It's kind of like when planets go retrograde. Mercury is still making forward progress and orbiting in the same direction around the Sun, it just LOOKS like its moving backwards.
Take note of how to best to deal with those situations and how to improve your own process for getting things done. Smoothly.
Like this ice cream. 🍦 🙃
Any of these lessons hit for you? I'm curious.
Got any you want to share? Let me know in the comments below.